Cindy Sanyu has always been vocal about her stance on marriage, particularly when it comes to who should move in with whom.
Years ago, while still single, Cindy made it clear that she would never move into a man’s house after marriage, insisting that it should be the man who moves into her home instead.
Today, married and living with her husband, Prynce Okuyo, in her own house, Cindy has stayed true to her word.
Cindy attributes this decision to her past experiences. During her younger years, she often found herself moving from one man’s house to another, a lifestyle that eventually wore her down. These experiences led her to a firm resolution: no more moving.
She believes that by having the man move into her space, she can avoid the drama that often accompanies separations, especially the common narrative of a woman being thrown out of a man’s house.
As a woman, you decide. You get tired of moving from house to house, and after some time, you decide that if someone loves me, they will move here. That way, when they want to go, they will, without disturbing you. You stay in your space, and things remain constant.
Cindy’s approach is not just about convenience; it’s also about safeguarding her dignity and stability. She emphasizes that in the event of a separation, the man is the one who leaves, taking everything he owns with him. This includes even the gifts she may have bought him.
People will not say that you have been thrown out of the house and you are stuck in the compound; they will see the man. He goes with everything he owns.
For Cindy, her home represents permanence and security. She welcomes her husband to make changes if necessary, but makes it clear that in case of separation, it is the man who will leave.
Cindy is also comfortable with the idea of raising her children on her own if it comes to that. She concludes, “I do not mind staying with the children; we can stay, and you leave.”